There Should Be A SUPPORT GROUP for Quitting $ocial Networking $ites?

It’s been 4 months since I’ve logged onto those major social networking sites.  What started out as a hiatus have turned into a out, and out recovery program.  Yeah, that’s right I SAID IT~!! {LOL}  Whenever I speak to people in person, and they haven’t been on {FB, MYSPACE, TWITTER… etc.}  They always will tell you exactly how long it’s been since they’ve logged in.  Free-DUMB? It often makes me giggle at how much we sound like recovering addicts, explaining how proud we are of our break from addiction.

I think whether we know it or not, drama is addictive.  After getting a taste of it, it’s hard to look away or stay away from it.  Daily doses of drama is often administered on these sites.  What makes it even juicier is that it’s drama from people we know personally.  You want to know who so and so is pregnant by?  Check their post, and look at pictures!  You’re curious about someones relationship status, check their page.  Or better yet, you want to know how a party went….pictures will be posted as it’s going on.  Social networking sites is a breeding ground for arguments, verbal warfare and drama.  Let’s face it.

I have resolved in my mind, that social networking sites is a great avenue for business.  You can connect with like-minded people and showcase what ever you have to sale.  Even though this a free way to get word out about your product, it comes with a high PRICE.  Accumulation of more “SO CALLED” friends, followers or associates means more people privy to your private goings ons.  lol.  Yea I know they only know what you post.  That can be the furthest from the truth.  Technology is become better every day.  Social media sites are becoming more advanced.  Other people can post things to your wall, and tag you to nonsense that you wasn’t even involved in.  Next thing you know, some other person is coming at you for something you wasn’t even aware you was tagged in.  So in my mind, I will continue to use these avenues for business purposes only.  I feel like this, “If I don’t have any business to share, then I have no business being there!”

This is not to say I’m not interested in other peoples well being.  That is furthest from the truth.  I’m looking to reconnect with those closest to me.  I want to see their beautiful faces in person, and hear their voices for real.  Words can be a beautiful thing…but on Social Networking sites, they become vague, pointed, manipulated and used to tear others down, disrespect and measure towards their own existences.  This keeping up with the Jones mentality is magnified on Social Networking sites.  I’ve come to the realization that I have nothing to prove to anyone except…My Higher Power, My Husband and of course MY SELF.  So needing to post, and show people what I’m up to every minute of every day is cut out.  WHY?  Well, for me I enjoy my sanctity, and privacy of my life.  These “THINGS” accumulated in life is just that, THINGS.  I value something that can’t be bought…and that is my relationships, and the love that I share with my loved ones.

SO I say as FB/twitter and other Social Networking is finding more, and more ways to invade your life,  WHAT HAVE THEY DONE FOR YOU LATELY?  I’m serious.  I love that saying, “If it don’t make dollars, then it doesn’t make $en$e.”  I use to log onto to Social Media to play games with family, check in on my family and friends, say hi to old friends as well as share my product with those that are interested in it.  Now I cringe at the thought of logging on to the egotistical word battles, hateful words, and racial disagreements.  This is my leisure time.  Leisure time is  described as a time for recreation.  Recreation is  leisure, leisure being discretionary time. The “need to do something for recreation” is an essential element of human biology and psychology. Recreational activities are often done for enjoymentamusement, or pleasure and are considered to be “fun“.  Since many of these Social Networking sites are no longer geared towards enjoyment, amusement or pleasure I find that my time offline have been so refreshing…and now I can say with confidence when I do have “FREE TIME”  I don’t damage my mental with the drama’s of social networking.

I’m grateful for those connections that Social Networking have helped me make.  On the same note, I do realize the damage it can and will do to many perfectly fine relationships.  Those vague, snippy, sexist, racist, provoking post that flash across the screen from others that promote drama…seeps into my mind.  I don’t want those thought processes to clog and pollute my mind.  I hate to say it, but it’s true… “Bad association do spoil useful habits” (1 Cor. 15:33)  Many may fight bible teaching, don’t believe in a higher power or want to rely on their own teachings.  That’s cool with me, I say what ever works for you…work it!  Especially if it keeps you OUT of turmoil.  I know that being on Social Networking sites was starting to bother me, when it was a high topic for discussion.  That’s when I knew it was time to start limiting my contact with the drama filled sites.

Maybe it’s time to start a support group SNA {Social Networking Anonymous}!!  I’m sure those that understand where I’m coming from will want to join too~!!  Knowing that each day, away from those sites brings you closer to those that truly want to see you do well in life.  As well as those that don’t want you caught up in the dramatics that spill out into the streets, that social networking creates.  Well thats all my wonderful blog mates… Thanks for listening and letting me share my thoughts on this matter.  My name is Queen Rella, and I’m a recovering Social Networking addict. lol.  See you in the next post~!!  I’ll see you on Social Networking sites, when I have official business to attend to!!

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Love Always,

Queen Rella

P.S. Click on this link for just ONE of many drama stories that started on a Social Networking site. Woman Killed Over Facebook Comments


Staying disconnected, to feel connected!


Some times I take time for myself.  If you don’t feel like you can give, the best thing to do is regroup, and take some time for yourself.  That adage have worked for me so many times.  This winter in PA, is colder than a penguin’s butt!  My RA is proving to fight me all winter long. As the groundhog predicts a early spring, I’m actually praying for it.  Thats the truth, straight from my mouth!  So anyway, about taking some me time….

I tend to shy away from the social media sites, when regrouping.  It can sometimes be honestly, very draining.  When stress is a all time high, and I’m trying to come back to my middle.  Offline is where I find the MOST peace.  I think that we take for granted that these technological improvement, have made us all too accessible.  Why do we need to connect with people everyday, that with out this technology we wouldn’t see but once in a blue moon?  This technology is taking away that feeling of surprised to run into someone, that you haven’t seen in years.  When we would normally be happy to see someone, that “Oh I see them everyday online {FB,TWITTER, or INSTRAGRAM or comparable sites}” attitude, makes that actual in person encounter awkward.  Why?

Some people will put their entire world online.  It makes you uncomfortable to see them after you read about that long trip to the bathroom, that saucy romp or whatever they deem STAT or should I say “LIKE” worthy.  Other reasons are everyone is in a race, to show how perfect, or successful that their lives are.  They want to stir up drama, and cause confusion.  That’s why many times, I drop off likes to those that talk about things uplifting.  {NEVER ABOUT THAT US NEVER THEM MENTALITY}  Truth is we are all in this together.  I never believe that what is effecting your space, don’t effect me.  I feel like if we are doing good, we all good together.  THEM? Naw, if we are all a part of the human race…them, is the animals of this world.  We still find time to take care of them… {Long silence…}  Sometimes I wish folks would realize that they would treat a wild animal better than their own  kind.

As I was saying RA is a interesting pothole, on the road to life.  Times have come where it feels like I can conquer the world.  Other times, I kick back and look at my critics and wonder…if they got afflicted with what I have tomorrow.  Would they be able to hold their heads up and keep a smile on their face as I am determined to do?  RA tends to intensify off of stress.  Off of research, and group sites that face the same issues I do I’ve learned that meditation, and relaxing helps ease the aches and pains.  So it’s been a smooth break with heating pads, and Epsom salts…mixed with some NSAIDS.  What more can a sista do? I’ve found that with this world of technology we tend to shy away from the REAL encounters.  Those face to face interactions.  As these days get colder…so do peoples attitude.  So slowly I continue to prune my garden of associates.  “What is it that I gain the world, but lose my soul?”  Therefore if I’m being drove out of my character, I definitely take some soul cleansing time for myself.  It’s repairing, encouraging and enlightening to continue to search yourself, a ailment will humble you and keep you HUMAN. I’m taking that time to feel human again…and disconnecting is a part of that journey for me.  I’m determined to make 2013 a great year for me, and to keep on reaching goals.  Anything that stumbles me, deters me or serves to hold me back…get’s cut off.

I hope you are enjoying your 2013, and remember these social websites don’t pay you a dime to stay connected to them.  It’s not a obligation to be on it everyday.  I feel reconnected with myself…as I journey through this NEW YEAR!  It’s February already, and already I’m learning more about myself, and building off of that knowledge from the University of Real Life Lessons.

Love Always,

Queen Rella