Hello everyone welcome to 2013~!! HAPPY NEW YEAR~!! I wanted to open this year on interesting topic. We are living in some critical times~!! I’m looking forward to the new possibility’s and meeting my new short and long term goals. Still something ran through my mind and I wanted to blog about it~!!
Criticism, whether it’s constructive or not, is it vital? I wanted to touch on this subject because for some odd reason, many people feel it’s their job to judge the next person. Yet, these same people want to be given the sympathy for there actions, flaws and imperfections. It’s very concerning the way people preoccupy themselves with others affairs. If only they would spend that extra time on being critical with their own actions, dress, behaviors and more. Some how these type of people have it in their minds, that their opinions is laced with gold. Never providing anything positive, they feel their sharp tongues is the answer to another persons issues. Let’s rewind first though.
It’s one thing to provide a answer to someone’s question. It’s then when they ask your opinion, that you’re just providing your honest answer. It’s another thing when you try, and publicly embarrass another person for attention. Online personalities seem bigger online. When offline, would you like someone to sit in your face, and zero in on your every flaw? I’m sure you would be ready to throw blows, and defend yourself if someone disrespected you. Be it about your style, size, breathe, greasy skin, dry skin or whatever small matter that can be thrown at you. It’s as if manners and decorum is non-existent. Even in the real world, you would love for a real friend to pull you to the side, to share with you a embarrassing flaw that can be corrected. Why all of a sudden because you are online it’s okay to degrade a person in public, pointing out their flaws.
So you say it’s “CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM”? It’s funny because the way I was taught in the professional world, constructive criticism comes as a sandwich. It starts with a positive, layered with what “Constructive Criticism” you want to share, then back to another positive. I know when you lead with a negative, any good that your trying to produce get’s ignored. WHY? Because nine times out of ten, that person you embarrassed by bluntly spitting out your so called constructive criticism blocked out your words. No one that I know sits around like a lap dog, waiting to hear shot’s of insults thrown at them. If they do, then I doubt they have much self respect.
My reason for bringing this up, is to shed light on the obvious. Many question why some folks cut them off, and not want to be around them. I’ve learned that birds of a feather flock, and I’m not in the business of degrading anyone. If that is someone’s lot in life, if they feel as if it’s their duty to correct someone else, or should I say criticize them. I say this to you, START WITH YOURSELF. Anytime you feel the need to be critical, turn that inward. No one is perfect, and I’m sure if you spend the time you do on degrading others with your so called “Constructive Criticism” on yourself,….you would see that you’re not perfect either. Only difference between you, and that next person that get’s attacked with your sharp tongue is…they have compassion. They don’t want to degrade you, or make you feel small around others. I heard a great quote, “Always expect criticism if you’re doing something interesting, or different.” That’s so very true. Many people that can’t do, criticize. So truly I just smile at the critical ones, and hope that soon they find something interesting to do with their time. Until then they will probably continue to criticize, and wonder why they are trapped in the same ole day to day cycle. Poor critics, if only they had some sort of talent besides shooting out negative retorts.
I hope everyone is having a great new year~!! I haven’t wrote in so long, and to be honest it’s because I’ve been working on so many writing projects. I have a new Novella out titled, “Tales From Steel City” you can find it on queenrellabooks.webs.com and I have a poetry book that’s coming out this month titled, “Royal Inspirations” that too can be found on our company website~! I appreciate you reading, I hope your not bogged down with critical ones. Truth is though, if you are…then you must be doing something right~!! Peace and love…and best wishes for a progressive New Year!