It’s Time To Reclaim OUR Idea Of Beauty

If anyone knows me, they know that I’ve been rocking my hair el naturel for most of my adult life.  Whether it’s been in box braids, locks,

Abackdrop2wash n-go, afro’s or micro’s.  I have been an avid natural hair supporter.  It’s not that I don’t find the lovely styles that is created with curling irons, and weaves beautiful.  It’s just that those particular hairstyles don’t work well for me.  Somehow though, it has become such a hot topic for people to discuss.  Let’s be real, it’s a hot topic with females.  I honestly doubt men are sitting around discussing whether they like a weave, afro, locks, relaxed or whatever on a female.  I believe when they converse about women it’s more on the lines of lower body extremities.  I seriously doubt they are talking about our hair.  Can you imagine?  A man sit’s down in his barber chair and says to his barber, “Aye man, I just got a number from this sexy chic, with the most vibrant weave I’ve ever seen!  I mean I loved the way, her freshly relaxed hair blew in the wind!”  LMBO!  Naw I think it would go a lil like this, “Aye man, I just got the digits from this sexy woman…she had a PHAT A*% and some nice T**%#%$!!”  I’m just saying and keeping it real.  I don’t think men are as concerned with our hair, as we are.

Back to the subject at hand.  This discussion was about whether men like natural or relaxed/weaved woman.  It got me to thinking, and I realized that question really had me saddened.  WHY?  Well first off I honestly can’t believe that a grown woman, that is suppose to have self love…would ever put that much weight on a man.  I mean, if the body is our temple…this temple is ours to do what we want with it.  Why, would it be up to men to decide how a woman wears their hair? SECOND, This is already a man’s world.  They control the money, politics (Which means that they already set the laws of the land).  Why would I need to consult them for my God given hair?  So instead I did a video on my opinion concerning the matter.  I wanted to share my thoughts with you as well.  I mean you are my blog-mates.  I hope to hear your feedback on the matter.  I mean everyone is entitled to their opinion…and my opinion is IT’S TIME TO RECLAIM OUR IDEA OF BEAUTY!!

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Feeling More Established As An Author, and Publishing Company!

ImageQueen Rella, started out as a name given to me by a child.  Now a grown man and out of school, he just don’t know what he did calling me Rella.  I changed something someone was using as a insult, and developed it into a empire!  I was called Barbara-Rella, by a associate that I considered a friend at one point in time.  I use to live with their family, and as I am now, and have always been a “NEAT FREAK” or as some say “OC”.  I just say that I like to surround myself with good FENG SHUI.  Keeping my home organized and neat, keeps my life in order.  Anyway, I would come home from 8 plus hours of a overtime work shift.  These shifts started around 3pm, and I wouldn’t get off from work back then until well after 12am sometimes.  This job required a lot of manual labor, and standing so it’s needless to say how tired I would be.  Still I can’t stand no house in disarray.  I would come home, and clean the house from top to bottom.  When they awoke in the am, they would find a house neatly cleaned that they didn’t have to lift a finger for.  So she started calling me, and directing her son to call me Barbara-Rella.  A spin off of Cinderella who often found herself cleaning up after her wicked Step-Mom and Sisters.  It was suppose to be a put down, I guess.  Well I’m determined to turn that S*** into Sugar!!

As of March 2013 I just recently found out that my published books, are now available to be borrowed from Pittsburgh’s Carnegie Library. {A CHILDHOOD DREAM COMING TO REALITY!}  I started out on this journey to get inducted into the Library Catalog system, two years ago!  So you know that this news is very exciting for me, and my company http://www.queenrellabooks.webs.com .  Two years ago, I donated books to the East Liberty and Eastridge Library in Pittsburgh, hoping that these people in the library would enter it into the catalog system. {Especially since I am a local Author}  What I got was swift kick into reality that everything takes time, and work.  It was interesting to find out, after all that driving around, delivering books, and donating them.  It wasn’t even the libraries that I submitted to, that introduced the books to the system.  http://www.pennhillslibrary.org/New%20Materials/march2013newmats.pdf

Both of the books published so far, Steel Twinz “Ladies In The Street” and Tales From Steel City are both available for borrowing!!!  I’m on the new materials list with the great Mr Dan Rooney, with his new book “Allegheny City: A History of Pittsburgh’s North Side”!!  Not to mention, Queen Rella’s Novella’s have some big things coming for the future~!!  I’m excited to share this news, and its a blessing that things are starting to fall in place for my dream.  When I found out I was entered into the library system, it made me realize that no matter the humble beginnings you come from, you can build “NOTHING” into “SOMETHING GREAT!”  I hope that’s inspirational for you~!! It is proving to be motivation for me~!!  I can’t take all the credit for this revelation, first I need to thank my HIGHER POWER, Jehovah for always showing me my path in life and THANKS to whoever it is that kept requesting my book for library induction.  Lastly but most importantly, Thanks, to PENN HILLS LIBRARY for putting my book on their new materials list!  It such a dream come true for me!!

As far as where I go from here?!?  I have a couple more books that is ready for release, and many more that’s being worked on!!  Not only is as a publishing company, but as a Author, and a dedicated YOUTUBE publisher {www.youtube.com/queenrella77} as well.   This is just the FIRST CHAPTER in the book of Queen Rella’s Novella’s….stay tuned for more to come~!!

Thanks for reading, and staying in touch~!!

Luv Always,

Queen Rella

Public Image Versus Reality

Public Image Versus Reality

I have found that through the years, even down to our school years a similar tide takes place.  Many are highly concerned with their “Public Image”.  In this age of social media, we have TWITTER, YOU TUBE, Facebook, Black Planet, MY SPACE, blog sites, Insta-gram and more.  With these websites it gives voice to those that otherwise would be ignored. Yup, I said it.  It gives voice to those gossipy, liars that love the spread drama giving them attention.  It’s sad that people don’t take the time to think for themselves.  Listening to what ever the next person says, just to make themselves feel validated.  Instantly that person you held up high, is now getting bashed and it makes your ears perk up!  It’s so intriguing to hear about another persons personal life.  Especially when drama is involved   Whether it’s true or not, it effects your “Public Image”.

It’s true “Public Image” use to be a problem for only the CELEBS.  Truth be told now local, everyday Joe’s have to be concerned with the way they are being portrayed.  On the flip side of the coin, these folks that listen and spread the “STORIES” are paid temporary attention, and finally they get what they are looking for.  Modern day paparazzi’s are everywhere!! Now that every phone has a camera or video recorder on it, it makes it easy to create these scenes and embellish. Now a simple everyday issue turns into a TMZ special.

What’s the reality of this all?  Well truth be told, I love to live off of the fact that I only live my reality.  No one, no other person has walked in the shoes that I have been strutting in for a long time.  I know with anything, time will pass and many will see these terminal people for what they are.  Many crave to be in the limelight, and want to be revered as popular, stars, leaders or what ever.  Still it takes a truthful human-being to walk among this polluted scene, and rise above it.  It’s the reality of this world, many are not satisfied with their lot in life.  They will grab and claw at anyone that is reaching heights beyond what they have.  They will do what they can to destroy the next persons “Public Image”.

In reality, this on-line persona that many are reaching for is trivial.  In real life we all have someone to answer to, and this temporary high that they receive when others gather around to hear their “TALES” of so and so, and such and such is just that.  TEMPORARY.  Even too, I have found comfort in knowing that one turn, deserved another.  {:WHAT DO I MEAN?:}  Usually what you choose to dish out, will come back.  I often remind myself of that, and that’s why I choose to put out positive.  It’s a choice, and it get’s tested often.  Even being on the receiving end of the drama, I decide to let it roll.  Knowing that soon, in reality those that continue to live that life….will be a victim of it.

It’s true that employers, past friends, future associates and family can take a peek into your life by glancing at your social stat’s.  It’s also true that many want to paint a certain picture of you on-line, hoping that it will make their persona look better.  In reality, when you log off.  You real life is right there facing you.  No matter how hard you try to tear down the next being, reality is a hard fact.

Well that’s all, I figured I haven’t blogged in a while and really have been feeling this topic.  In this day, and age where cyber bullying, image destroying and harassment seems to run a muck, I felt the need to touch on this topic.  Reality is what I hold on to, when I hear he said, she said things I tend to dismiss them.  I get to know the real person, and if I don’t know them.  I don’t allow the next person to form that opinion for me.  I have a mind of my own, and regardless of what “PUBLIC IMAGE” another tries to create…I rely on reality.

Well gotta go…LOVE ALWAYS…and I wish you all the LOVE.

AGAPE.

On To The Next!!!

We Sat down with Queen Rella come and find out what she is talking about.

I’m so excited to announce that my next book is coming soon~!! I dropped the title, and premise.  It’s encouraging to get feedback, and hear from my readers.  I have got request for another book.  It’s definitely on it’s way!

I had to stop in and share with you the interview that was done, concerning the new title coming out.  It’s interesting to share with each of you, my fictional creations.  I never quite know how people will perceive my characters that I come up with.  Some have told me that they can relate to them.  Or have even known someone that reminds them of the character I created.  It feels good to hear that people are connecting with my art.

Since dropping Steel Twinz “Ladies In The Street” in September 2011, I have seen this book reach levels that I only imagined.  Now as I journey into this new book release.  I get the opportunity to share with you, another persons art.  Shayla Bryant is a creative author that will leave you looking out, for her first title.  So coming soon, this book will be out! It’s on to the next one!!!   I wanted to share with you the interview, and thank you for all your continued support.

For exclusive updates, and contest information head on over to http://www.queenrellabooks.webs.com !!! If you want to keep up with what Queen Rella is up to, you can subscribe to her on YOU TUBE: queenrella77.  Enjoy the interview, see you in the next post!

Oh yeah,…I guess we should share the AD for the new upcoming book!! Check this OUT~!!

On The Road To Recovery

I’m in my teens again~!! 

It’s been a full year and a month of my journey to better health.  I knew that in order for the RA pain to ease up, I needed to rid my body of some of the excess weight.

I felt the need to come through and touch base with my wonderful readers.  Let you know that I have reached another milestone for me.  I am now in my teens again! (LOL) No not age silly, I’m talking about my dress size! I’m excited and proud that I’ve made it this far.  True that it have been an up hill battle with in myself to stay active, and to continue to eat what my body needs to survive.  Still on this journey I have found it’s true, that as you’re losing weight, your body is healing.

I am in the healing process.  Riding my body of toxins, excess body weight, making breathing easier!  I have to stress that if we as a people don’t encourage each other to maintain a healthy lifestyle.  We are all doomed to live a life of illness.  I say this because people see folks losing weight and the first thing they think is “They must be sick” or “On drugs” and even some have passed around “Weight Loss Surgery”.  Someone can not just be eating the way that they want and exercising anymore.  So I tell everyone that not only am I on the healthy lifestyle journey, I am also on the road to recovery.

Think about the repair that my joints are going through.  Carrying less weight is advantageous to lowering blood sugar.  Life is too short to spend it miserable, listless and agitated. I traded in my sedentary life for a more active one.  With in this next year my goals have been set.  I don’t share my goals with others because they are mine and mine alone.  Still you must know that I intend to keep on this healthy lifestyle…..well you can see below why?  Proof is in the pudding~!!

 

I encourage you to go for what you know! If there is something that you want to do to improve your health. Don’t worry about what others are going to think.  Do what YOU need to do for you! I know that it’s easy to grab a burger and fries then sit in front of the TV. Trading the energy for the TV and veggies for the fries. Made such a big difference in my health. Thanks for reading. Agape.

 

 

Every End Is A New Beginning

New Year + ME = Endless possibilites

Happy New Years!  2012 is upon us~!! I don’t have to tell you that I’m optimistic, excited, encouraged and renewed for this new year~!! I talk about in the last blog, getting to the finish line.  I also said that I would talk about what to do when you reach a goal.  Well I figured I would start the new year out with that blog.  Every end is a new beginning.

Personally when I reach a goal I tend to celebrate.  Taking time to relish and enjoy the fruits of my labor.  Next, I continue to support this goal. If it’s something that needs supported.  {Such as my book.  I have to continually do things to market and encourage the sales of them}  Now I don’t relax on my accomplishments.  I can’t sit still for a moment sometimes.  I literally have to stop myself, and train myself to take a break.  After that break is over.  What ever I choose to do to relax.  I go back to the lab and re-write out NEW goals.  Yup, I said it.  New goals…I’m not done yet.  If breathe is still in me I am determined to define, create and recreate my life. Not according to no one human beings life…but, mine.  Anyways, like I was saying, what I do is start a new list of goals.

So, even though it feels like I should stop, or take a break. I don’t I keep on pushing to my next project.  Life is too short to get stuck on one thing for too long. Our minds are so creative, and always ready to absorb new knowledge.  That I know that I personally, need to keep it moving.  Ready to astound myself.

So don’t ever give up on yourself…don’t ever stop dreaming and pushing.  Even when you reach the END of one project.  It’s up to you to keep pushing towards the next goal.  There is nothing wrong with accomplishing the impossible, and making it possible. It’s all a matter of your mind state.  With that being said, YES my new book is under way…again you will not be disappointed! Second my health is improving as I have lost 55 in 2011 and project to lose more in 2012~!!  My book sales are up and the events I attend, are encouraging and enlightening. To meet so many talented, loving, caring souls in my home town of  PITTSBURGH and beyond~!!

 

I thank you so much for hanging in there with me.  I try and post as much as I can.  Sharing a piece of my life.  Or work, health encouragements…and so on.  I am far from perfect and don’t project to be.  I just love to write, encourage and inspire all to enjoy life.  Even through the dark times we learn things that make us smile in the long run.  Keep on working hard at being the best you.  That’s all you can be~! Agape.

Side Note: Thanks so much to my new SUBSCRIBERs to the blog!!! Your input is welcomed~!! Come visit me on my website too, http://www.queenrellabooks.webs.com

Getting To The Finish Line

You can make it...it's up to YOU~!

It’s easier said than done, getting to a goal sometimes.  I heard a story one time of a swimmer.  He decided to get taken out far into the ocean to swim back to shore preparing for a competition.  Last time he did it in less than ten minutes.  It was a foggy morning, so all he had to go off of, is that he is going in the right direction.  He had a far swim, but nothing he haven’t swam before.  It was the fog that was blocking his normal right to see the shoreline. For some reason on this particular day the tide was higher and thrashing against his body.  He swam, and swam…it felt like time was going slow and he still was swimming harder, than before.  He wanted to beat his previous time.  Starting to believe that he would never make it to shore, he contemplated giving up.  Something about not seeing the shore line, his finish line, is wearing down on his normal ambitious demeanor.  He was winded got a leg cramp and the brisk air he was gasping for, was starting to make his lungs burn.  His body was begging for him to quit.  This swimmer stopped short feeling as if he wouldn’t make it.

Isn’t that how it is sometimes?  You set a goal ahead of you, then when it don’t come to fruition fast enough, you start feeling as if you’re not going to complete it.  It starts to weigh heavy on your mind.  You contemplate giving up and admitting defeat.  You tried, and you fought the hard fight.  It all seems too far to reach, so not to look like a failure, you think about just giving it all up.  Moving on to the next goal, and letting that dream of hitting that finish line go.  I have been through that time, and time again.  I was on TWITTER and reading one of Rev Run’s stat updates.  I find him and Russell Simmons to be educational, inspirational and encouraging.  So, I read their stat updates on Twitter.  {If your on TWITTER go check them out, for encouragement.  You will not be disappointed.}  Anyway Rev Run said: FOCUS {Follow One CourseUntil Successful}  I found these words to be so true and motivational.

Even when the tide is up, everything is thrashing against you to not succeed, even your mind is starting to play tricks on you.  That is when these words need to kick in.  Forcing you to continue on your course, til you reach your finish line.  {{FOCUS}}  I don’t care if it’s for weight loss, a longer exercise time, a promotion at the job, trying to move, staying in a long term relationship, saving for a dream vacation.  No matter the personal goal it’s important for you to focus on the BIGGER PICTURE.  Not just the hardships that you’re being hit head on with.  Everyone runs into obstacles.  Nothing happens overnight, like the movies want you to think.  Most things worth having takes hard work.  Your job in any dream, goal, passion or desire….is to keep your FOCUS>>!  Forward progression!!!

So, what happened to the swimmer, floating at sea, trying to reach his finish line?  What happened, when he decided to stop rushing forward towards his goal, when he didn’t see the finish line near?  Well, he quickly found out after he was scooped up into the speed boat, winded and defeated, that the shore was less than a half a mile away.  He was right there…and didn’t even realize it.  He allowed his mind, to convince him that he couldn’t make it.  He allowed all the outside influences to deter him from reaching his goal.  What did this story teach me?  Well first that any dream or goal you want to achieve is closer than you think.  Second, that it’s up to you to reach your goals.  It’s all in your mind.  Third, that things will get in the way of you obtaining your dream, reaching your goal. But, you have to focus and keep on that same course to make it happen~!!

Why am I talking about making it to the finish line.  Well, I want to share with you something that helped me out.  This story that I shared, and the wisdom of Rev Run is something that every goal oriented person needs to hear.  Also I wanted to share with you that I have reached my FINISH LINE!  I have completed my urban fiction book, and it will be ready for sale by 9/30/11~!!!  My book title is STEEL TWINZLadies In The Street”  It is a engrossing street tale about Twin sisters born into the under world of Pittsburgh Pa.  You get to navigate through life with them, as they live the street life. Proving that females can be hustlers too!

I have to be honest with you.  This book was a test to my dedication, determination and drive.  I think that I crashed into a lot of figurative high tides, and started to doubt my own ambition.  Still, when it’s something that you want.  You have to stay FOCUSED in order to reach any goal~!! I had to share this with you all and ask you to come through and support my NEW WEBSITE it’s www.queenrellabooks.webs.com !!!  On my site I will be holding new book contest, new book titles, Book sales information, meet and greet schedule, new book release information and more~!! I’m excited, to say the least,…my book…MY FINISH LINE is right there, in front of me!  I pushed through all my obstacles, and completed my FIRST edition urban fiction NOVELLA~!!

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So, I say to you…don’t give up on any dreams that you have.  Any goals that you are setting out to achieve, believe me when I say that if you FOCUS, you will SUCCEED~!!  Your FINISH LINE is closer than you think~!! Thanks for reading…AGAPE. ❤

Coming up soon, in the next blog…What’s next, after hitting the finish line? What do you do with that feeling of accomplishment?  See you in the next blog…and please come through www.queenrellabooks.webs.com and show a sistah, some love on her dream! The only way to get on top, is to help another person up!